Ep077: Make Friends and Break Through Loneliness - With Dr. Dorsay

OVERVIEW

There are many reasons why most people cannot sleep peacefully at night. It can be due to stress, health, work issues, finances, or sometimes the strong feeling of loneliness. The thought of having no one that would be there for you especially if your facing problems or someone that can listen to you when you need to vent out your anger or happiness can cause sleep problems. We always need friends aside from our family. Someone that we trust and makes us feel loved and accepted. In this pandemic, it’s not only our health that is being tested but also our relationship with our friends. Who will stay and who will forget. So the question is do you have this kind of friend who can stick with you through thick and thin? What kind of friend do you have?

For this week’s episode, I interviewed Dr. Adam Dorsay. He is a licensed psychologist and a certified executive coach working in private practice in San Jose CA. Dr. Dorsay also has his own podcast entitled SuperPsyched. In this episode, we talked about the importance of having and making good friends. How it can affect our sleep and health state. Cliché as it may sound but indeed no man is an island we all need each other to survive and to live a wonderful life.

WHAT WILL WE LEARN

00:50 Who is Dr. Adam Dorsay
02:46 How distance hinders the good relationships between friends
06:20 Friendship: Quality over Quantity
08:27 What are the 3 overarching criteria of friendship
10:41 How online conversation affects the quality of friendship that two persons have
14:41 What is Multisyllabic Term Interpersonal Neurobiology
19:36 What is the public health epidemic of loneliness
23:39 The feeling of rejection: How it affects making good friends
26:13 How to reduce anxiety: Tolerate rejection
28:31 Dr. Dorsay’s: The drive away test
29:57 Why respect and boundaries are important in a friendship
32:44 Two different types of relationships
34:59 Dr. Dorsay’s advice to people who are feeling lonely of not having good friends and where they can start to make one

RESOURCES

Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and a certified executive coach working in private practice in San Jose, CA. He specializes in assisting high-achieving adults (including professionals, executives, entrepreneurs, and professional athletes) with relationship issues, stress reduction, anxiety, and attaining more happiness in their lives. In 2016 he gave a well-watched TEDx talk about men and emotions.

He is also the co-creator of Project Reciprocity, a highly successful international resiliency program based out of Facebook’s HQ in Menlo Park, CA, where he served employees in the Online Safety Department at Facebook for four years. He now serves as a resiliency consultant to DigitalOcean, a cloud computing company headquartered in Manhattan. He is frequently contacted by the media, and various podcasts to provide commentary as well as corporations, academic institutions, and healthcare facilities to provide in-depth presentations on matters relating to psychology and psychotherapy. He also serves as an expert content contributor to wikiHow on various topics especially around the science of happiness where his work has been viewed by several million people. He is happily married with two young boys and a hypoallergenic 33-pound Australian Labradoodle therapy dog named Raffi, who lives at his home and works at his office.